You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage -- pleasantly, smilingly, non-apologetically -- to say 'no' to other things. And the way you do that is by having a bigger 'yes' burning inside.
Dr. Stephen Covey
American Author of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
Wow, l knew it! There certainly IS a bigger 'yes' burning inside me, l just didn't know how to put it in words. Dr Covey just did it .
Yes ! Finally there is someone who is re-assuring me and telling me that baby, you are not so wrong in saying No to a lot of could-have-been-fun- times, things and people.
You are not wrong in severing some ties and letting go of the others.
You are not wrong in not spending hours in the malls or hours on the phone in the last few months.
Apparently, the sweetheart has learnt to say No.
Apparently the sweetheart has grown up (ok, somewhat) to realize her priorities, the importance of time and also the in all certainty the importance of education (at least for my own self!)
So honey, l have learnt to say No NON-APOLOGETICALLY, though of course l am a lesser mortal, l procrastinate, l get distracted, l digress from subjects all the time.
But of course l am happy.
Life's teaching me interesting lessons.
Life is helping me grow up.
Staying away from my cocoon is teaching me being independent, take my own decisions, decide the kind of people l genuinely want to be and cut out the rest.
Well, that does make me socially unavailable most of the times, but then l am always there for those l genuinely love and l genuinely am concerned about.
l 'd rather give them all my time, love and money, than simply socializing for the sake of it.
I'd rather invest in new relationships with potential than the relationships which could have been there forever and still don't mean anything to me!
That's the latest priority in fact, besides the aim of getting more education, going back to school.
I know now much better than before what l want from life and what l want to give to life. There's something that the past almost-one-year has taught me!
Now it doesn't sound so much.
I might have been a social recluse in the past few months. That was just my need of getting away from the crowd and the commoners. That was my way of sorting out life.
The New Year's around the corner. I love this time of the year, for the Christmas makes me nostalgic and reminds me of the happy times of my school days.
There are New Year resolutions to be made. You speak to a lot of old people whom you haven;t spoken to , in long!
Even though, out of my last year's resolutions l could only complete two. Travel to two new states- l did three or four :)
l couldn't manage international travel ;-)
l made some absolutely wonderful new friends for life (hopefully)
l think l have made some decisions that would affect my life in the long run, hopefully positively again!
There's still A LOT that is left incomplete.. but what's the New Year for ? :)